What does this have to do with meeting women?

There are many techniques out there that allow you to go from 0-60 with women in record time. For example, using word-for-word routines will allow you to get quick success.

I have recommended a routine-based approach to help get you out into the real world to start meeting women and get some early success. There is nothing wrong with this, as it will give you a confidence boost, and make you a believer that this is possible, and this stuff does work.

The problem comes if you come to rely on these methods, rather than focusing on core improvement of yourself as a man.

I have known people who have resorted to only using routines because they feel their life isn’t interesting enough to talk about. Deep down, they feel as though they are cheating themselves because they are using things that are not congruent with their self-image.

Another problem comes from telling stories that are not based on your life. You might read a great story on the Internet that you think would help you meet women. So you go out and tell this story and you have great success. Sounds great.

Suddenly though you start to feel bad because you feel like you are misleading women and being dishonest. Suddenly you question yourself and what you have done. The quick rise to being good with women was great at first, but now you feel terrible about how you have gone about it.

Kinda like the ‘Paradise Syndrome’ – suddenly you start to feel unworthy and therefore the tendency arises to sabotage your success with women.